The War at Home – A Spouse’s Poem

Photo from the Military with PTSD Facebook page.

Below is a poem from the Facebook group – Military with PTSD – a forum for veterans and spouses supporting each other. The site does not offer advice from health care professionals. But, the sentiments expressed are important for all to understand.

For health care professionals, readers should turn to the VA Center for PTSD or organizations such as the Wounded Warrior Project resiliency resources and Give an Hour, a non-profit which provides free mental health for military and their families effected by the Iraq and Afghanistan wars.

My thanks to Cheyenne Forsythe for sharing this item and site. Unfortunately, the author was not noted.


Courtesy of the Military with PTSD Facebook group.

The War At Home


My children and I did not volunteer to go to war.

How could you not warn me the war was coming straight into our home?

I had no warning or instruction as to what to watch out for.

The soldier returned home and not my husband.

I got a little pamphlet explaining that most soldiers may have to readjust to being home.

I believed you and trusted you when you said that the readjustment period may take a few months but they should experience a successful transition back into the home.

Months turned into years and every time I would call for help I was brushed away.

I called for help because my home had turned into a battlefield.

Guns were being drawn and my children and I became the enemy.

We lived our life walking on eggshells out of fear.

For almost 5 years we lived in hell.

I had to use every ounce of strength I had to keep this family together.

My husband proudly served this country, and would gladly do it again if asked.

But when his family needed help, you allowed them to suffer for years.

We did not want money.  We wanted to have a normal life.

We would have had a chance if you would have been truthful.

If you would have told these soldiers families what to watch out for.

You should have told us about PTSD!

If you or a veteran you know is in need of immediate help: the Department of Veteran Affairs‘ 24 hour national suicide prevention hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255). 

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