With Veterans Day approaching, a lot of attention naturally is focused on veterans and active duty military, but what about their families? To a man or woman, anyone who served or is serving in the military will tell you that their families sacrifice as much if not more.
“We don’t need pity” and “We rely on our friends” are just a few of the insights. For more on military families experiences, here’s an article by Sarah Lynne, Parenting Guru at Yahoo.com.
1. When a deployment is imminent, we just want it to start. That doesn’t mean we want our spouses to leave. We don’t. But when the date has been set and our husband’s bag is sitting half-packed in the corner of the bedroom, we start getting anxious, worried and a little bit angry. We think about the upcoming months and everything he’s going to miss and everything we’re going to have to do alone. It’s overwhelming. Once they leave, we can start to tackle the challenges one at a time and that’s so much easier than the waiting. But those last few weeks before he leaves are wrought with frustration, nervousness and a little fear.
2. We are not miserable the whole time they are gone. We don’t like that our family is split up, but we can’t live in the future or press a pause button on our life, so we focus on other things. Hobbies, children, visiting friends and family, work; our life is still full. Just not complete.
3. But there are tears right underneath the surface. Whenever our children do something new, or something exciting or sad happens, or even when there have been just too many nights that we’ve stayed in alone, we get really sad. And we can’t always be sad because we don’t want to upset the kids.
You can read the other seven things about military spouses you may not know HERE.