“Five Year, Two Kids and Four Deployments Later” – That phrase is from Jackie Dorr’s first blog post. As an Army Wife and former president of the MacDill Enlisted Spouses Club, she managed to capture the essence of military married life to a spouse who is deployed more often than he’s at home. Here’s a portion of that entry, but I encourage you to take a few minutes and read the entire post.
So what does being a wife to a deployed soldier mean? What is the life like?
Undoubtedly, Murphy’s Law will kick in as soon as Brian steps foot in another country. The car will break down, the washer will stop washing, the computer network will crash etc…
When cleaning, I will always clean around the dirty pair of socks laying on his side of the bed ( he took them off the day before he left and left them there for me to wash). They remind me of him, so they will stay there until he comes home, as will the three pairs of shoes under the coffee table. When I change the sheets on our bed, his pillow will remain untouched, even if it is the wrong color, it still smells like him and makes me feel closer to him.
“Will You Ever Be a Normal Family?” – Alexandra Fuller, another member of the MacDill Enlisted Spouses Club, shared some typical questions she’s fielded from civilians. Her blog entry is a good read because sometimes civilians can say something that may seem harmless yet ends up being hurtful because of the civilian didn’t know any better. You can read the full entry or here’s a portion of her blog entry:
While talking to a neighbor about my husband’s current deployment she asked me many of the normal questions that a civilian wants to know. “Will he be home soon?” “Is he in a dangerous area?” “Do you miss him?” But, one of her questions really stood out. “When will your husband get out of the military so you can be a normal family?”
She meant no ill will by asking this question. To her, our life is not normal.
I have been asked many questions about our life and his career. Yet, this particular question really made me stop and think: What is the definition of a normal family?
“An Air Force Wife’s Thoughts on Memorial Day” – Contributor Michelle VanHuss writes about her first experience attending a Fallen Hero’s Homecoming at MacDill Air Force Base. It is tradition for military personnel, families and civilian employees on base to line the streets to welcome home the fallen warrior and family. You can read Alexandra’s full entry HERE.
The families are the reason I attend these homecomings. The journey is over for the soldier but it is just beginning for the parents, spouses, and children. I will continue to take my daughter with me because I want her to respect the sacrifices of others. I know that I am fortunate that my husband does not deploy too often.
“What I Wish I Had Known About Military Retirement” – Contributor Liisa Hyvarinen Temple provides practical advice for military spouses who are approaching the transition into civilian life. The retirement blog entry has been one of the most popular since it was posted. Here’s a taste of her advice:
When your military member is encouraged to start the separation process early – they mean it. If you start the process 12 months before, it’s not soon enough. You need to make sure you’ve crossed all your T’s and dotted all your I’s by the time you serve the retirement cake. There are so many steps you have to take, so many classes you have to schedule to take, so many medical appointments you have to have, so many forms you have to fill out – you will need all that time to properly prepare.
More memorable moments to come from Military Moms and combat Veterans.